Twenty Five Duties a Soul Embodied as a Man Should Fulfill
A soul has no gender and possesses two main desires: to love and to evolve. If the desire to love prevails, the soul gets a female body, and if the longing for evolution is bigger, it is embodied as a man. (See also Twenty Five Duties of a Woman).
The fastest way for liberation from the cycle of births and deaths for a man is to be a monk. In the age of Kali, however, only very few persons are free from the interest in the opposite sex (See Kali Yuga – Age of Quarrel). If a man is not able to lead a serene life without a woman he has to accept the responsibility for one woman and live as a married head of a household. Both paths are equally valued in respect to spiritual progress if one is following his Dharma (mission in a concrete embodiment).
Here are the duties a man should fulfill when living as a householder (in grihastha ashram).
- Be a leader in the man-woman relationship.
- Establish the outer connections of the family.
- Expand the family space, build a home.
- Provide money.
- Define his inborn nature as one of the following: an intellectual, leader, merchant, or worker (See Vedic Varnas)
- Find an occupation according to this nature.
- Allow his wife to inspire him.
- Always keep his word.
- Respect and honor his wife.
- Protect his wife.
- Unconditionally accept his wife as a whole and not criticize her.
- Not talk over his wife with others.
- Be responsible for spiritual growth in the family.
- Be responsible for high morality of the family.
- Be responsible for physical education in the family.
- Be at the head in upbringing of children.
- Set up the principles of the family life and its goals.
- Establish the spheres of influence in the family distinguishing the wife’s and husband’s responsibilities.
- Be an earnest person.
- Be respected in the society.
- Understand the changeable nature of woman.
- Give his wife jewelry, fancy clothes, and sweets.
- Love his wife and make her feel it.
- Eat grains.
- Treat his wife’s parents and other relatives even more respectfully than his own.
TODAY’S TIP: Other than his wife representatives of the opposite sex should be seen as daughters (if younger than a man) or mothers (if older) and accordingly treated.