How to Make our Families Warmer and Happier
The epoch we are living in (Kali Yuga) began on February 18th, 3102 BC. It is characterized by quarrels, degraded morals, and all kinds of miseries. The fact that we were born in this period indicates that our behavior in past lives was not ideal. It also means that we have to deal with the consequences of our earlier deeds, which will unfold in circumstances where we previously made a wrong decision. If we make the same choice, the situation will repeat itself again and again in the current and even in the next lives. Everyone has surely noticed him/her in recurrent condition, which is obviously meant to teach us a lesson.
The Vedas say that in the age of Kali, negative repercussions are mostly revealed in our personal life, in interactions with our loved ones. It is because the greatest attachment of people in Kali Yuga is sensual gratification.
The difficulty lies in the fact that over the years and lives, we have worked out certain patterns of behavior, some unconscious stereotypes. This is called a thinking paradigm. Because the set of ideas and reactions we are using keeps failing to bring us happiness, it can be assumed that they do not quite correspond to reality.
Modern Russian philosopher Vyacheslav Ruzov, proficient in Vedic knowledge and expert in family psychology, gives examples of how we can consciously reprogram our subconscious notions about what our loved ones are doing.
We have to switch our awareness to an optimistic state. This will help us get a taste for positive thinking. If we learn to think this way, we will desire to communicate with our loved ones.
Here are a few examples of such thinking:
My partner is not late for our meeting; they are detained by urgent circumstances. The person I love is never late.
My loved one is not as stubborn as an ox; they are consistent and prudent in their plans and try to bring them to the end.
They do not overeat at night; my loved one recuperates after working hard for our family.
My partner does not gossip, they are at pains to consult with experts to find the best solution to the problem.
The person I love does not make mistakes; they try different options to make us happy and rich, risking their reputation and even their life.
The person I love is not stupid. They are a creatively minded intellectual, not hurrying to disclose their plans before the end of their work.
My beloved person is never lazy; they are resting before performing a heroic act for their loved ones.
My partner does not lie shamelessly; they are diplomatically trying to preserve our health and nerves in a difficult situation.
My loved one is not indecisive; they just love to ponder the problem and discover the most cost-effective and acceptable way to solve it.
The person I love is not yelling at me and making a scene; they are trying to protect me from fatal mistakes and want this discussion to be memorable.
These are a few examples so you can get the idea. In every situation, however, we have to find our unique perception of what is going on. This is not cheating; it is a true perception.
The same situation can be viewed from the south, north, east, and west. If we always look from the north, what we see is true, but not complete. Why not to try looking from the south? Why not? We should be able to look from different directions.
TODAY’S TIP: I would greatly appreciate if you, my readers, continue the list of examples of how we can interpret the actions and words of our loved ones in order not to destroy our families but make them warm and happy.